“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”
~ Brene Brown
Each year in January I bring in a bunch of stones and sharpies to my Saturday morning yoga class. Instead of writing out resolutions or goals for the year we all pick a word.
This year my word was AUTHENTIC.
Authenticity is something I struggle with personally. I always feel the need to put on that happy face. This year I promised myself that I was going to speak my truth. Even on social media. Especially on social media!
For years I have “put on the mask” and it is exhausting!
And honestly when I look through my news feed sometimes and see the perfect meals, the perfect sunset, the perfect yoga pose on top the mountain I often feel inadequate.
Then the doubt creeps in. And the fear. And I stop believing.
I put on the mask again and start being the person I think people want me to be.
I stop writing and sharing because who wants to know you’re not on top of everything?
Face it we don’t see the behind the scenes-–especially on social media. There are no pictures of leaky pipes or burned dinners. The not so awesome yoga poses.
But what are we telling each other if we only show up with our A game? If we’re only there for the victories and happy endings? If we only come to our mats when we are feeling our strongest?
My teacher and friend once told me “you must show up and suck before you can show up and shine.”
The key is to keep showing up.
YOU. Your authentic self. By doing this we are giving those around us the permission to do the same.
Inspirational author Alan Cohen wrote “Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth becomes more important than looking good.”
Think about the last time you had dinner at a friends house.
Do you remember whether the tables were dusted? Or the carpets vacuumed? Do you even remember how the house LOOKED?
But I bet you remember the great conversation. The good food. The wonderful friends. How you FELT.
I am no longer willing to trade in my authenticity for approval.
Not everyone will like me. Not everyone will agree with me or how I live my life.
But you know what? That’s ok.
I am unique. I am authentic. I speak my truth. I am big and loud. I live in happyville (and often crazyville). Not everyone can handle my woo. (I don’t blame you because sometimes that sh$& is ridiculous!)
I am who I am. No approval needed.